Forum Etiquette and Issues

Ok, I am not the pro on etiquette anywhere, but I MUST post some things that I see on forums that does not make sense and sometimes downright rude.  I know that some people have good intentions, but there are others who consistently make comments where they don't need to make comments - I call them forum bullies.  If you have a problem with a forum bully, contact them through PM if you must, but don't leave the forum because of them.  Don't let them rain on your parade.

I'm writing my rants here because I would like to remain professional on the forum(s). The owners of the forum does not deserve how I would respond to a forum bully - it would not be pretty.  Excuse my language, but there are a couple of forum bully b*tches I would like to slap on a regular.  It is so good that I have matured over the years.  :-)  It has taken me almost 5 years to blow my stack about this forum bully thing.  It's time for me to vent!  :-)

1.  Someone asks a question because they need help.

--Don't chastise them and say "It's been said over and over again....."  they could be new to all this stuff, which includes how to look things up or use the internet.  If you find it annoying that you keep seeing the same questions by people, skip over it and move to something else.  DO NOT COMMENT.  None of us were born knowing how to use a computer.  Some people are lazy though and won't look things up for themselves, but many times you can tell which ones are just being lazy (they ask for basic help for years).  If you don't want to help them, don't respond at all.

--Don't respond with something like "Sorry, can't help you".  Why did you bother to respond?!

2.  Someone complains about something that bothers them about the software or gadget that is the main feature of the forum.

--If you must say something rude, don't respond.  Everyone, including you, get annoyed by something and sometimes you just feel the need to get it off your chest (a lot of times, these complaints turn into upgrades and no one needs you to stand in the way by making people feel shy to state their frustrations about something).  Don't bash other people for wanting to vent sometimes too.  If you do, then consider yourself a hypocrite.  Before you bash someone for making a complaint, do the simple thing and think about a complaint you've made or will make.  Would you want someone to bash you for it?

3.  Don't respond to posts if you're going to be rude and don't know what you're talking about.

--I've noticed some people on forums who will respond to every single post whether they know what they're talking about or not.  They seem to have done everything that everybody else has done and make it seem as if they are experts in EVERYTHING.  Sometimes they even get to the point of telling the person that they are "just not doing it right" even though they don't know a thing about the situation.

Have you ever posted a problem with your die-cutter or something else and someone chimes in and says "that never happened to me?"  So what!!  Just because it never happened to you does not mean it's not happening to the person who is posting about it.  I just recently read a post on a forum where one of the forum busy bodies said she never had any paper rip while using her die cutter in 3 years.  Can you believe that?  What a liar.

--Someone asked a really stupid question on the MTC forum that deals with using Cricut files in MTC to cut on their Zing.  Why do people keep doing that? Don’t they know about the Provocraft lawsuits?  I'm going to give this person the benefit of the doubt and say she didn't know.

Anyway, the reason I brought this up is because there was an answer telling this person to basically move on to another subject because MTC people were not going to try to help her after the creator of MTC was sued.  I liked the response in a way, but this is the part I didn’t like…..another member had to chime in and scream the word NO! after I know he/she read the reply above hers.  His/her response was not necessary and was mean. It’s like people are vultures and have that mob mentality.  They wait until someone pounces, hold the victim down, then they stomp on top of them.  So rude!!!

Yes, there is a way to use those Cricut files in other cutters, but I'm not the one to tell you how, but it's possible.  Once you get the hang of making your own designs and manipulating images, you'll figure it out on your own, but no one is willing to be included in a lawsuit to help you out with that - so please stop asking.

NOTE TO "SO-CALLED EXPERTS" WHO GET OFFENDED BY QUESTIONS:  Just because you teach or have been using software longer than newbies does not make you THE EXPERT of everything there is to know about the software (it certainly doesn't give you the license to be rude either).  You may know more than many, but you don't know everything there is to know about the software or gadget or it's potential to be used for techniques you don't know about.  Keep your ears open for NEW techniques and new ideas and don't try to shut people down or try to shut them up because you've used the software or gadget longer (you hurt yourself too because you don't leave room to grow).  Upgrades are constantly made based on questions and techniques introduced by newbies AND experts.

--To those know-it-all resident forum bullies who feel as though they know everything about every thing and have done all things perfectly for MANY YEARS (at least in their minds):  Don't try to correct another poster when you have not checked the facts.  You look even more stupid than normal.

----Just because you say you have done something for x amount of years or decades does not mean you know it all!  It won't deter anyone from questioning your weird answer(s).

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What are some of the things that bother you about "forum bullies"?  Let us know.

If any of this offends you, you just self-identified yourself as a forum bully.  Good job. :-)

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